Home and School:
The Goal of Our Children's' Positive Growth:
Being prepared for successes, and being prepared for a bad day. These two ideas are equally important.
Having Positive Places and Safe Havens in our human world are what gives each individual human person a sense of belonging.
Being positive to a child is everything! But also being truthfully concerned for the wrong things that are going on in the child's life is part of being positive.
I am a 46 year old mother (living in Baton Rouge Louisiana) who wants to protect my 3 kids from physical harm every day. As parents/caregivers we look to ourselves in how we treat our own kids. We then look at the home/car environment and remove safety hazards and add safety precautions (like outlet plugs and car seats). We then move on through the day as we go out into the world. We interact with other families at parks and play groups, day cares and eventually preschools, elementary schools, and colleges; this is where we, as parents, cannot control things.
Safety insurances on our children's physical well-being are something all parents want for our kids. I am sure I will never give up on working to make each day a safer day for my kids. The thing is, not all parents are protective of their kids. and then, also: not all parents are making their children's upbringing a positive one. Child abuse and neglect happens in all socio-economic groupings and classifications. Kids from caring homes are interacting with kids from uncaring homes. In educational environments this is where "School meets home". School meets home every day but home does not meet school every day. Yes, in a way school enters the home via homework, school notices about fund raisers, robo calls and emails. But the privacy of our homes is kept from everyone's judgmental eye. Our kids are our homes. They are the ambassadors of our family home life. They enter the school doorway, follow daily routines socialize with their schoolmates, sit in desks, look and listen to teachers, tend to their personal needs of water fountain and restroom visits, follow up on their scholarly responsibilities, eat lunch, play and interact at recess and P.E., learn and memorize songs. Then the bell rings and they attend aftercare or go to school clubs or come home.
Why are schools (for the most part) so clean, decorated and cheery? The answer is: Because society needs them to be. They are our safe havens.
Bad things happen in what we work to be safe havens: Our Schools. Bullying happens, and schools try to address it. They can stop incidences of the bullying of one child. It is possible ( On top of all their other responsibilities). **sigh** This is where I will say once again. "When I was a kid we had 1 nurse and one counselor". This has not changed. There is still only one nurse and counselor in our school. Clearly we need more. Teachers need to teach. That is their profession, They cannot be everyone's nurse and counselor too!
I am writing this blog because something tragic happened that has touched every single person that is
associated with our school. It is something no one understands. It also has touched other concerned parents and grandparents at other schools. One Thursday, a beautiful, nice 12 year old boy decided to kill himself in our school during school hours. Everyday, home meets school and school meets home. This precious child was burdened. My child, while in his classroom, heard the yell and commotion upon the discovery of his body. He saw a leader run toward the direction of where the 12 year old boy was. He saw the ambulances and his school was on lockdown. These memories are forever. Most of what I learned was from word of mouth. The diocese sent 14 counselors yesterday.
Yesterday, I called and talked with the assistant superintendent. Currently the programs that are given that are on student safety are mostly focused on child sexual abuse. Sexual abuse is one type. I am hoping the caring programs will be broadened. The burden of the secrets of ANY and ALL type of abuse, unsatisfactory living conditions and familial conflicts upon a child is something that must be lessened. Each day is an effort for all of us. We can do this for children. Not just for our own child but for the child next door.
here is the first article in the press about Ethan's death. http://www.nola.com/news/baton-rouge/index.ssf/2014/02/st_jean_vianney_catholic_schoo.html
Here is a website with statistics on child suicide in the 10-14 age group